Learning Life’s Lessons
March 10, 2008
I feel like I’ve written this post before… but I don’t have the time to retrace my steps so I’m just going to write it again. And that just proves that moms are so “mommified” that constant repetition is our only mode of survival!
Children can be so helpless some times, and as adults, watching them struggle is a mixed feeling. You want to let them work hard at getting what they want, but then at the same time, you just want to step in and rescue your little one from all that anguish.
Ayzah has her little box of “stuff” that she goes through, but from time to time, she’ll stand up at Iman’s toy keeper and try to pull out something to play with. So many times I’ve noticed her struggling to pull out a stuffed animal, a plastic cup or a doll. Since the space between the drawers isn’t that big. Ayzah usually can’t get her new “find” to get through. So many times I’ve watched her struggle and get frustrated. She’s kept yanking and pulling and trying and trying. Some times she’ll succeed, which is great to watch, because she’ll be so delighted with what she’s done! It’s an accomplishment that can’t be measured by anyone but her.
Then there are other times when she just can’t seem to get the toy through, and in this case, after trying so hard for so long, she’ll come to terms with what she can’t have, and reach in for something else.
It’s amazing how some of the most important lessons in life are learned at such a tender age.
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Mona | March 10, 2008 at 2:12 pm
aww. cuuute pictures!
i know just what you mean. it’s hard to not give in and just help her out, huh?
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mayG | March 10, 2008 at 3:22 pm
mashaAllah! such a cutie
My little one would never come to terms with what she can’t have and go for something else, she’d scream and throw a fit, frustrated at what she wants and can’t seem to have.. any ideas how to deal with such scenarios? I usually ask if she needs mama’s help and reach out to do so but am not too sure if thats the right thing to do every time.
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Sheza | March 10, 2008 at 8:04 pm
oh God, mayg mine is 3 and he does the same. Oh Hina, glorious mama club president… help us out plz!
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hinamommy | March 10, 2008 at 9:10 pm
Ok seriously women…
I am NOT the president of this club. You guys have no idea how screwed up things can get on my end. But yeah, it’s great to share words of wisdom from time to time.
First, it totally depends on the kid. Some are born patient, other can learn patience, and the rest are just adament!
Let your kid work things out for themself. Certainly there are meltdowns, but that’s when you just kneel beside and keep telling them that “I know you can do this”. An encouraging lift to get the object is also helpful. You can help make the job easier, but don’t always just do it for them.
From time to time, just hand over the toy, other times you let them struggle. There’s only ONE thing you never encourage, is a reaction. If he goes down the road of a tantrum… then definately don’t hand over the toy, certainly that’s NOT the lesson you want learned!